We’ve all got them. Friends and family members who seem to be constantly getting in the way of us working toward our goals. Some instances of sabotage may be obvious and some of it may be much more subtle. People can be doing it consciously and deliberately and others may be doing it subconsciously, without even realising it. We can certainly do it to ourselves, but we’ll cover that before too long in a whole seperate post, I think.
People might do things such as:
- discourage you from being more physically active and encourage you do other activities when you’d planned to do something
- consistently putting foods in front of you and insisting you eat them whether you’re hungry or not
- make you feel guilty for taking time out for yourself or doing something positive for your health and wellbeing
- criticising your approach to making changes in your life and interfering in you choosing your own path
There are all sorts of ways people can be consciously or unconsciously derailing your efforts. You won’t always be able to avoid it but I think it’s important to be able to recognise these messages from those around you so that you are better able to filter them and help ensure we decide for ourselves what is right for us.
It may be helpful to talk to your friends and family members about what you’re doing for yourself, why you’re doing it in this way and how they might best be able to support you along the journey. You may find the people in question don’t realise the impact of what they are doing and genuinely do want to be supportive but aren’t sure how.
It can also be beneficial, if you have multiple people in your life making things challenging, to join (or create) a little support group of likeminded people on a similar journey that will help you feel more positive about what you are doing for yourself. The more positive vibes you have around you, the better.